Safety Planning if you are in an abusive relationship:
• Plan an escape route – think about how you can get out as quickly and safely as possible by planning an escape route from every room in your home.
• Think about where you can go when leaving quickly so that you can call the police.
• Plan a place to meet with your children if you get separated.
• Develop a ‘code word’ or ‘sign’ so that family and friends know when to call for help.
• If possible and without letting your partner know, starting putting away some money in case you need to leave in a hurry.
• Plan where you would go in an emergency, such as to your neighbour or close friend, but always have an alternative.
• Keep a list of useful numbers and safe people to contact, in a safe place; for example, Staffordshire Women’s Aid, your local police, a close friend or family member, and other support services.
• Pack an emergency bag so that it is ready if you need to leave in a hurry. This should ideally include; money, change of clothes, extra house/car keys, copies or originals of passports, marriage/birth certificates, any legal documents (especially showing jointly owned property and details in relation to immigration status), credit card and bank details, medication and any documents in relation to children. Keep them in a safe place such as with a friend or relative or hidden somewhere.
• Don’t hesitate wherever possible to call 999 in the event of an emergency and you feel you or your children are in danger.